yeah he's being vague as fuck
wire the remote in, in parallel with the rest of your remote in to your amplifiers. leave the remote out unconnected and of course terminate it safely
here's a quick primer on rem out, battery voltage is 12v, remote out voltage is 12v, remote out should only be hot(12v) when your car/headunit/etc are on. the battery positive wire should ALWAYS be reading 12v
you do not need the rem out on a dsp unless you want your amps to turn on AFTER the dsp which isnt necessary
you have noise due to a ground loop. reground your headunit and dsp, then go through the noise reduction process by eliminating equipment until you figure out where its coming from. for example, unplug the rcas into the amp and the noise is there? bad amp ground or bad amp. google for the rest